How Modern Parent Response to a Baby Cry

New parents like I do question about baby cry. How to deal with it? Should I let my baby cry? is one of the most common questions I have in mind before and even a new parents like you. And their are countless incorrect advises people given to answer these question than about any other aspect of parenting. To illustrate the confusions between season parents as they respond to this question, let me share to this article the responses they made to my simple question "Should I let my baby cry?" I asked from different group of season and experience parents.

To make a conclusion to this simple research I did, I separate the respondent into two different group. A group of the experience and season parents and the group of a new parents like me. The only one simple question they need to answer is " What advise do you give about what to do when the baby cries?"  And the answer they made are the following list below.

List of experience and season parents advise they give to deal with baby cry.

• Let her cry it out.
• She must learn to be independent at her very young age, so let her cry.
• Don't pick her up every time she cry, she will stop very soon when she got tired.
• You will spoil your little one if you pick her up every time she cry, let her.
• Let your baby cry, that's what she want give it to her.
• If you respond to your baby crying she will soon control you.
• You're the adult, you must in control not the baby.
• Listen to your baby cry, if she's hungry feed her.
• Crying is there way to communicate with us parents, these is the way they express feelings, try to figure out what your baby's need.
• Sometimes, crying baby has a soiled diaper, hungry, uncomfortable, so figure it out first before you judge.
• You are creating bad habit if you come every time she cries.

List of new parents advise they give to deal with baby cry.

• I don't know what to do, maybe I pick her up and sing to her.
• I feed her.
• Maybe I pick her up or maybe I let her cry, I don't know, I ask my mother first.
• Maybe come to pick her up and dance her until she got sleep.
• I think she's hungry or sleepy or uncomfortable or just need attention from us, so I pick her up.
• I love my baby above anything else, so I pick her up to comfort her.
• She's not born to cry and suffer, she must be comfort, pick her up.
• Hug the baby to comfort her, she deserve to be loved.
• She don't know anything, so comfort her, she deserve warm love from her parents.
• I waited so long for my baby, so I pick her up to comfort her, she deserve love and full attention from you.
• The way babies communicate to their parent is crying so address her need, your little deserves attentions.

The response to the question, "what advise do you give about what to do when the tittle one cry". Most of the season and experience parent answered that often they were told unresponsive to baby cry. On the other hand, most of the new parents are confused and not know what to do when their baby is crying, also most of them showing affection, empathy, and responsive.

While, in response to the follow question, "how do you feel about the let your baby cry it out"? I received the same answer from different group of parents the experience and season parent and the new parent. Both of them stated the following "As a parents I don't let her cry if I know that I have the means to comfort my little one, I feel so guilty if I leave the baby crying and it's my instinct to response to my baby cry and it doesn't feel right to me if she cry, it drive me crazy".  

Therefore, we conclude to this experiment that there is a big differences between what parents advise and what is it in parents hearts.